5 must-haves for a modest wardrobe

Transitioning to a modest wardrobe is not the easiest thing. I struggled a bit. Once the Holy Spirit convicted me about my dress code, I knew changes had to be made. I got rid of some of the immodest items I owned, I head back to some of what I thought I could adjust or ‘modestify’.

Making this change also meant not being able to shop in certain stores and that’s okay. However, it also meant having certain handy items that could easily switch an immodest look to a modest one. This was a big deal for me as most of my clothes in time past had to reveal my cleavage.

1. Basic Vests: this is highly essential. I mostly use these to make v-necked outfits modest. The vests cover up the cleavage and still provide a trendy look. You could get them in several colours or you could start with black and white.

2. Kimono: I love kimonos!!!!! The switch up immodest to modest in a very elegant way. I got a lot of sleeveless and tube gowns when I was pregnant, kimonos helped me achieve modesty. Kimonos are timeless and I’d recommend them anyway.

3. A good seamstress: this is necessary especially if you are Nigerian. An awesome seamstress could add length to even ready to wear clothes as well as sleeves to a super short sleeved attire. If you shop online often, you need a good seamstress, sometimes you have no idea the length of an item until it arrives.

4. Midi – Maxi Skirts/dresses: nothing screams modest more than midi and maxi skirts. It took me a while to realize that I could be stylish and trendy with midi and maxi skirts. They have become an absolute fave for me. The key is to choose wisely. Don’t just buy a skirt because it is long or not short. Think of how you can style it and think of what other pieces in your wardrobe would complement it. pleated midi skirts are awesome, slip skirts are also pretty versatile.

5. Basic black skirt: this could be denim if you want but I’d suggest you have two. One in denim. We often hear people talk about the little black dress, I think for modest people, the basic black skirt is the staple we need. Super versatile, easy to find and you can never get enough. It could be casual, it could be official. Once you have your black skirts, you could add other colours to your collection.

Share your suggestions with me, what do you think are the must-haves for a modest wardrobe?

5 tips for teaching practical life skills

Teaching life skills to kids is so important. I think for a child to excel in life, life skills must be an integral part of what the child learns from early on. When I set up my school, I made sure it was infused into the curriculum and I am so glad I did. There are so many life skills that would be beneficial and it may be daunting to decide which ones to go with first.

For now I am focusing on getting the kids to know their history( I may do a separate post on this later on), praying and Bible reading, cleanliness and housekeeping, book reading(one story book per week), focus and self control (teaching this can be challenging) and empathy.

For those who are interested but do not know how to, here are a few guidelines:

1. Patience: you need a high dose of patience to teach life skills to kids. This never crossed my mind until I got started. They are kids and they may not get it right at first, you may be required to keep on reminding them on the importance of cleanliness or whichever life skill you are teaching.

2. Consistency: you do not teach something once and leave it there. It doesn’t work with adults and would definitely not work with kids. One way to be consistent is to incorporate the said skill into your daily or weekly routine.

3. Practice what you teach: I needed my kids to read more rather than watch them become the tv zombies they are/were gradually morphing into. Sometimes, I would turn off the tv and announce ‘reading time’. I would pick up my book and ask them to pick up theirs. So while they are reading, I’m reading too.

4. Justify the skill: This is hands down my favourite part of teaching a skill. Explain to them why they need to learn this. Mine usually takes the form of ‘ Do you know why you need to read more books?’, then I let them guess. ‘Well here is why I think reading books will help you…’. In the end they understand the need for that skill.

5. Correct in love: when they get it wrong, don’t get mad. Understand that teaching your child to do dishes may mean one or two plates or mugs get broken and that’s okay. Teaching your child laundry may mean that as they learn, a few clothes may get stained and that is okay. There will be mistakes until they perfect the skill.

What life skills are you presently teaching to your children?

Bible Verses for Pregnancy

When I was pregnant with my second boy in 2014/2015, I remember the overwhelming anxiety I felt. There were stories about pregnant women being kidnapped and newborns being stolen (it was during the election season), I resorted to staying at home mostly just to be out of harm’s way.

I really cannot imagine what it is like being pregnant in this season of COVID-19. I was telling my husband how great it is not to be pregnant this period and then I remembered so many others are.

I read a post by @monmartt_kids and when I went through the comments, I saw that many pregnant women especially in Lagos have difficulties going to their ante natal appointments, some are anxious about what happens when they go into labour in this lockdown…frankly, there is so much to worry about.

Here are 13 Bible verses to help you out. Read and meditate on them. Pray using these verses and I pray that God will perfect all that concerns you and your pregnancy.

1. “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭56:3‬ ‭ESV‬‬

2. “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭1:6‬ ‭ESV‬‬

3. “Say to those who have an anxious heart, “Be strong; fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you.””
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭35:4‬ ‭ESV‬‬

4. “They shall not labor in vain or bear children for calamity, for they shall be the offspring of the blessed of the Lord, and their descendants with them.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭65:23‬ ‭ESV‬‬

5. “Do not be afraid of sudden terror or of the ruin of the wicked, when it comes, for the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭3:25-26‬ ‭ESV‬‬

6. “He is not afraid of bad news; his heart is firm, trusting in the Lord.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭112:7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

7. “For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him.”
‭‭1 Samuel‬ ‭1:27‬ ‭ESV‬‬

8. “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭26:3-4‬ ‭ESV‬‬

9. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.”
‭‭Isaiah‬ ‭55:8‬ ‭ESV‬‬

10. “I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed.”
‭‭Psalms‬ ‭34:4-5‬ ‭ESV‬‬

11. “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.”
‭‭John‬ ‭14:1‬ ‭ESV‬‬

12. “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
‭‭Philippians‬ ‭4:6-7‬ ‭ESV‬‬

13. “But overhearing what they said, Jesus said to the ruler of the synagogue, “Do not fear, only believe.””
‭‭Mark‬ ‭5:36‬ ‭ESV‬‬

The days are evil, times are hard, there is so much uncertainty but in all these God’s people will remain victorious.

Innovation

When we hear innovation. Our minds usually wander towards big tech companies and so on. We think of computers, inventions and the rest.

It recently dawned on me that innovation does not have to so far away. Our everyday lives could use some innovation too.

How do you understand innovation? There is a definition by the UK department of innovation and skills which resonates

Innovation is the successful exploitation of new ideas

UK department of innovation and skills

The overall aim is to improve efficiency.

Innovation is introducing something new, like an idea, method and device.

Merriam- Webster Dictionary

The word ‘innovation’ is not in the Bible, however, the Bible is littered with examples of innovation and innovators. This lockdown period got me thinking about how I can be innovative in my home and my business.

I got a notebook to write out ideas as they come. From innovative ways to homeschool this period, innovative ways to evangelize, creating more family time to running my business.

Understand that innovation is not a modern concept. Here are some examples of innovation in the Bible:

1. God the creator. He created people in his own image (from dust). He created the earth. Genesis 1.

2. We see innovation in the shift from the old covenant to the new covenant. Jeremiah 31:31-34, Hebrews 9:15

3. We see a pattern of God constantly innovating the pattern through which he communicates with man. In the garden of Eden, He communed with man, later there came the era of judges, priests, kings, dreams, prophets. Right now we have the Bible and we can get to know God but studying diligently.

4. Noah’s ark. This must have been high level innovation in its time. Through this means, God preserved His own.

5. God’s decision to begin the nation of Israel through Abraham

6. We see Moses, Samson and even Gideon (among others) come up with various innovations in their time.

Here are a few questions to guide you as you figure this out:

1. Does your business/family life glorify God? In what ways have you honoured God?

2. How can you improve on this?

3. Identify areas where you went wrong in the past? how can you turn things around?

4. Pray. You need God’s direction. Just like he guided Moses, Gideon and Paul to accomplish their own tasks.

5. Faith. Faith is action! Faith helps you carry out whatever vision God gives you. I read somewhere that Faith honours God and God honours faith. Such a lovely perspective.

Christianity does not hinder creativity, we have the Holy Spirit who is an innovator. He was there in the beginning and abides with us today. God has given us talents and gifts, these are sacred! Use them to develop ideas that profit your family and business life.

God is always doing something new. Isaiah 43:19

Innovation is not an excuse for sin. Permitting things God does not permit is not innovation.

Be creative, let your creativity draw people to Christ, let the work of God be advanced through your creativity and overall let God be glorified.

BIBLE VERSES FOR YOUR BUSINESS

Praying for your business or the work that you do is of utmost importance. A lot of people know this, however there are many who are unaware about what the Bible says about business.

I have realized through Bible study that God does not encourage any form of laziness or idleness. In whatever your hands find to do, make sure it pleases and brings glory to God. This means there are certain areas of work that Christians should not delve into (but that will be handled in a different post).

Here is a list of my favourite verses on business and they serve a guide on how to pray concerning your business.

“Whatsoever thy hand findeth to do, do it with thy might; for there is no work, nor device, nor knowledge, nor wisdom, in the grave, whither thou goest.”
‭‭Ecclesiastes‬ ‭9:10‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“He that is faithful in that which is least is faithful also in much: and he that is unjust in the least is unjust also in much.”
‭‭Luke‬ ‭16:10‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat. For we hear that there are some which walk among you disorderly, working not at all, but are busybodies.”
‭‭2 Thessalonians‬ ‭3:10-11‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“But thou shalt remember the Lord thy God: for it is he that giveth thee power to get wealth, that he may establish his covenant which he sware unto thy fathers, as it is this day.”
‭‭Deuteronomy‬ ‭8:18‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“For they all made us afraid, saying, Their hands shall be weakened from the work, that it be not done. Now therefore, O God, strengthen my hands.”
‭‭Nehemiah‬ ‭6:9‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“For what shall it profit a man, if he shall gain the whole world, and lose his own soul?”
‭‭Mark‬ ‭8:36‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“The simple believeth every word: but the prudent man looketh well to his going.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭14:15‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“Commit thy works unto the Lord, and thy thoughts shall be established.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭16:3‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“The desire of the slothful killeth him; for his hands refuse to labour.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭21:25‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“The soul of the sluggard desireth, and hath nothing: but the soul of the diligent shall be made fat.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭13:4‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.”
‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:23-24‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.”
‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:17‬ ‭KJV‬‬

“He that tilleth his land shall have plenty of bread: but he that followeth after vain persons shall have poverty enough.”
‭‭Proverbs‬ ‭28:19‬ ‭KJV‬‬

These are just some of the verses that guide me when I pray for my business. Do you have any favourite verse for your business? Kindly share in the comment section.

Come back next week for another post!

Shalom!

THANKING THE UNIVERSE

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The universe is popularly defined as all of space including the stars, planets and other forms of energy and matter in it. In Genesis 1, we have the account of creation. This account shows that God created everything that has existed, everything that presently exists and everything that will exist.

But the day of the Lord will come as a thief in the night; in the which the heavens shall pass away with a great noise, and the elements shall melt with fervent heat, the earth also and the works that are therein shall be burned up. 2 Peter 3:10

And the Lord will create upon every dwelling place of mount Zion,
and upon her assemblies,
a cloud and smoke by day,
and the shining of a flaming fire by night:
for upon all the glory shall be a defence. Isaiah 4:5

All things were made by him; and without him was not any thing made that was made. John 1:3

It actually baffles me when people who profess Christ follow the idolatrous trend of worshiping the universe. This extends beyond thanking the universe. People pray to the universe and make requests and supplications to the universe.

One thing is certain, the universe and God are not the same. God is supreme. God created the universe. The universe would not exist if God did not create it.

Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created. Revelation 4:11

When I consider thy heavens, the work of thy fingers,
the moon and the stars, which thou hast ordained; Psalm 8:3

Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear. Hebrews 11:3

By the word of the Lord were the heavens made;
and all the host of them by the breath of his mouth. Psalm 33:6

Why would we rather worship creatures (created by God) than God Himself? This is idolatry.

Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshiped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen. Romans 1:25

Take a bit of time to ponder on the verse above (Romans 1:25), write down what it means to you.

Remember this, all things were created for God’s glory. None of God’s creation is to be worshiped- not even angels.

In his hand are the deep places of the earth:
the strength of the hills is his also.
The sea is his, and he made it:
and his hands formed the dry land.
O come, let us worship and bow down:
let us kneel before the Lord our maker. Psalm 95:4-6

the interesting thing with the above scripture is that after acknowledging God’s creation, God is worshiped- not the creation.

But ask now the beasts, and they shall teach thee;
and the fowls of the air, and they shall tell thee:
Or speak to the earth, and it shall teach thee:
and the fishes of the sea shall declare unto thee.
Who knoweth not in all these
that the hand of the Lord hath wrought this?
In whose hand is the soul of every living thing,
and the breath of all mankind. Job 12:7-10

The heavens declare the glory of God;
and the firmament sheweth his handywork. Psalm 19:1

For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse: Romans 1:20

The universe cannot save you. Only God can. Can God work through the universe or its elements? Yes! Because the universe in its entirety was created by God, God can control and use them as He pleases. The universe can do nothing to warrant your praise and worship. However, God deserves to be praised, worshiped, adored and magnified.

Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve. Matthew 4:10

If you usually thank and worship the universe or any other creation of God, you can stop today.

And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free. John 8:32

Now that you know the truth, you can pray for forgiveness. Ask God to forgive you for the sin of idolatry.

I am the Lord: that is my name:
and my glory will I not give to another,
neither my praise to graven images. Isaiah 42:8

And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him.

Prayerfully ask God to help you alter your speech- for those who are used to saying ‘bless the universe’ ‘thank the universe’ ‘thank heavens’ etc. You could simply just say ‘Thank God’ after all, He alone is worthy to be praised.

Christ Centred Goals for 2019

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Honestly, I am not one to make resolutions though my husband and I for the first time set family goals for 2018. By the grace of God, we achieved the goals we set even though most of them happened in ways we did not expect and a few plans had to be changed- that is God for you. Anyway, this year I set out to make resolutions, not just resolutions but Christ centred resolutions because most times we get so caught up in/with ourselves that we think life is really all about us.

Here are the goals I set for this year:

  1. More of the word: I want to dwell more on the word of God this year and beyond. This is so important because it is not possible to draw nearer to God if ample time is not spent on the word. This would include teaching my children more of the word of God.

    Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the Lord.  Colossians 3:16

  2.  Living by Faith: I guess I have come to realise that people who live by faith have less headaches and they constantly glow because they solely depend on God.

    (For we walk by faith, not by sight:). 1 Corinthians 5:7. (P.S this verse makes a fantastic memory verse for kids aged 2-5, I taught it to my boys last year with hand gestures of course).

  3. Pray More: Praying more according to God’s will is what I would love to learn to do, Honestly, I am not there yet. The Bible shows that Jesus prayed according to God’s will, we should follow the example Jesus set for us.

    He went away again the second time, and prayed, saying, O my Father, if this cup may not pass away from me, except I drink it, thy will be done.  Matthew 26:42.

  4.  Love More: As far this goes, I will ask God to open my eyes to what Godly love entails and show me how I can show love to people in need. One thing I have come to realise is that sometimes what we think is love may not really be love. So I will be throwing out the worldly definition of love and focus on Godly love.

    This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you. John 15:12.

  5. Service in Church: I actually serve in various capacities in church, I must admit though, I slacked a bit last year. The key is not to view church work and service as burdensome or unimportant.

    Serve the Lord with gladness:
    come before his presence with singing.  Psalm 100:2

I have no included family goals, because as I said earlier, my husband and I do that together. These are personal goals which I know would further point me to Christ. I set business goals as well. By God’s grace, I would post them next week.

Cheers and Happy New Year!!!

LESSONS FROM PROVERBS 31

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Proverbs 31 is a much talked about chapter of the Bible yet I never actually bothered to study it until recently. I felt like I already knew what it was about since it is so often talked about. When I was planning to start up my business, I needed Biblical inspiration and motivation, I had read blogs and listened to sermons that vehemently dissuaded women from working- except domestic work of course.

To cut the long story short, I found all the motivation and inspiration I needed from Proverbs 31. I decided to read it and truly discover what the Proverbs 31 woman was all about. I learnt things about ‘her’ that I never even knew despite all the blogs i had read about the Proverbs 31 woman.

Note that the Proverbs 31 is not a set of rules of commandments but since everything in the Bible is written for our benefit, we must to some extent try to imbibe the qualities she possesses- for our own good of course. The first two verses of the chapter show that a mother is advising her son. Apply the guidelines to your life and watch things change.

Also, i advice that you have your Bible by your side as you read because I have only indicated verse numbers, I have not written out the verses.

Here are the lessons I derived from Proverbs 31 (mainly from verse 10-31):

  1. In every sense of it, the woman described in this chapter is an industrious, business woman and at the same time a homemaker.
  2. She is hardworking. Verse 13 explains this, she is willing to work and does not find reasons to be lazy. she works joyfully and wholeheartedly. she is resourceful and goes after opportunities that are of benefit to her and her family.
  3. Her husband trusts her. Verse 11 explains this. Her husband trusts her work (or hustle), he has nothing to worry about because she is a God-fearing woman. The home does not suffer because of her work, she is a business woman and a homemaker.
  4. She is creative. Verse 14 helps us understand this. She goes for the best irrespective of what other women are doing.
  5. She is an investor. Beautifully captured in verse 16. She makes money and reinvests. She works hard and makes profit. From the money she makes, she is able to purchase fields and yield more from the fields. She makes smart business decisions and is perceptive to good business opportunities.
  6. She is perceptive. As explained in verse 18-19. She can discern and make smart business decisions. she knows a good investment and she knows what is profitable, she is confident in her work because she knows God will reward her diligence. She makes use of her God given talent , she is industrious.
  7. She helps those in need. Verse 20 means that she does not gather for her family alone. She is a blessing to others.
  8. Her appearance glorifies God. Silk and purple referred to in verse 22 could mean royalty. Her family looks like royalty because of her, her appearance is good and glorifying, her dressing depicts the fear of God.
  9. She turns her skills into a business. Verse 24 reiterates that she is a business woman, her skills and talents profit the family.
  10. She is confident and unafraid. she does not fear the future, she does not worry about tomorrow because she knows God is already there, everyday is a good day and even on bad days, she can find reasons to rejoice in the Lord.
  11. She is a homemaker. In verse 27, she does what needs to be done to make the home appealing. Doing business or working does not mean she neglects the home. Whatever her hands find to do, she knows that the home is the first priority.
  12. Her family praises her. Verse 28 shows that because she is resourceful, industrious and diligent, her husband and children are proud of her and sing her praises.
  13. Beauty is vain. I love verse 30 so much because it makes it clear that what really matters is the fear of the Lord. Beauty is vain and not once is she praised because she is pretty or gorgeous rather the works of her hands do the talking. Her beauty and looks are not mentioned because they are vanity.
  14. Her reputation speaks for her. In verse 31 we see that she does not need to brag or blow her own trumpet, her hard work and handwork speaks for her. Her reputation shines because of how resourceful she is.

Every time you feel like quitting your business or whenever you feel stuck, remember that God already gave you guidelines on how to manage and navigate the tough world of business.

Jehovah Ezer- The Lord my help(er).

I wonder how many people are familiar with this name of God? Jehovah Ezer! I recently began a preschool and elementary school business and I have come to realize that I need Jehovah Ezer a lot more than I could ever imagine.

I found a lot of favour throughout the process and I knew for certain that it could only be God because I never could have done it on my own.

In Psalm 124:8 David affirmed that our help is in the Lord who made heaven and earth. Also Psalm 121:2, Psalm 115:9-11, Psalm 46:1-2, Psalm 18:6-19 she’s more light on Jehovah Ezer.

I have heard myself say ‘God help me’ or ‘God would help me’ over and over because really that is where my hope lays.

If you did not know already, know this: as a believer you have Jehovah Ezer whom you could run to for help when you are stuck, lost, stranded, frustrated, insecure, afraid and weak.

Proverbs 18:10 says ‘the name of the Lord is a strong tower, the righteous run into it and they are safe.

I just wanted to encourage someone who feels overwhelmed or burdened. You have help! You have all the help you need. Simply call on Jehovah Ezer.

Keeping a Prayer Journal

It has been on my mind a lot lately to start a prayer journal because I know that my prayer life needs a mighty intervention.

I eventually got to it, I didn’t want to create any rules for journaling since I have not particularly been great at journaling. I just know that whatever I put in there has to come straight from the heart.

Keeping a prayer journal is important because I usually forget my prayer points. As I go through the day a lot of things to pray about cross my mind and when I eventually pray, I forget the things I should have prayed about.

Note that a prayer journal is not a substitute for actually praying rather it is to aid you in organizing your thoughts before you pray. It is also a good way to keep a record of things you have prayed about.

As much as possible try to be consistent. I am including a thanksgiving corner or section in mine where I can write down the things God has done for me.

The above pic is my prayer journal. I had bought the Becoming momstrong book set by Heidi St John which included a journal. I decided to use it as my prayer journal.

Also, to encourage regular journaling, I suggest you keep your journal with your bible and bible study book (if you have one). That way, every time you have quiet time or devotion, you would be reminded to make a journal entry.

I will post updates and you can let me know in the comments if you have a prayer journal or if this post has encouraged you to keep one.