My new year greeting is coming in a bit late I know and sincerely apologize. I lost access to my Facebook account and we have a large following there, I was hoping to send one message via all the platforms.
I am so excited for this year because I am reminded of how merciful God has been. I know many of us are feeling super grateful especially considering how the past almost two years have been.
What is your plan for the year? I do not do resolutions as such however, I do have a general mindset every year of drawing closer to God and learning more scripturally. It applies to this year as well.
I also set business goals (we will talk about this much later).
Family goals remain the same but more intense as my children grow up! My 8 year old is beginning to ask interesting questions and I must say, I need your prayers 😂
Welcome to 2022 my beloved people. May we draw nearer to the Lord this year. Amen!!!
I know business owners have planned out (or at least tried to) the year or the first couple of months. I know I have. This post is a quick reminder that as we go about our businesses, we should not lose sight of Whom we represent.
What is a Christian Business? I think in this world of entrepreneurship, this may be a question many Christians have thought of. In my 2+ years of the current business I run, I have pondered on this severally. My goal was to have a ‘Christian Business’ , It took a while for me to distinguish between a secular business and a Christian business. Many Christians are business owners, few however, run their businesses as Christian businesses for several reasons.
To arive at a definition, I had to marry Colossians 3:17 with Colossians 3:23 –
And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him. Colossians 3:17
And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; – Colossians 3:23
The Enduring Word commentary explains both verses thus:
Do all in the name of the Lord Jesus: The new man lives his life, all his life, for Jesus. He will only seek to do the things that he may do in the name of the Lord Jesus, and he will persevere in the difficulty of doing such things, knowing that he is doing them in the name of the Lord Jesus.
Not with eyeservice, as men-pleasers, but in sincerity of heart, fearing God: We are always tempted to work just as hard as we have to, thinking we only have to please man. But God wants every worker to see that ultimately, they work for Him. Therefore, they should do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men. God promises to reward those who work with that kind of heart.
i. The Christian who is a dishonest, lazy or unreliable worker has something far worse to deal with than a reprimand from his earthly supervisor. His heavenly supervisor may prepare a reprimand as well.
Bearing that in mind, I would define a Christian Business as one that glorifies God in all ramifications. Glorifying God involves the following:
The business is another avenue of rendering service to God
Christ as the standard
Promoting the kingdom
Defending Biblical values irrespective of popularity and social acceptability
The mission, vision and objectives of the business are inspired by the Bible
Pointing people toward Christ
Bear in mind as a Christian that your business matters to God and should represent God as much as possible. Our lives in entirety should be service to God, this includes everything involved in our day to day living such as: eating, thinking, dressing, working, talking, relaxing, relationships and every other thing we do.
Are businesses owned by Christians christian businesses by default? Or should they be christian businesses by default? The obvious answer to this is a solid YES.
Christianity is a way of life, not something you put on and off as you please. I take this to mean that businesses owned by belivers in Christ have to check all of the criteria listed above. Colossians 3 in general talks about the behaviour of the ‘new man’. The ‘new man’ imitates Christ by doing all things for the glory of God… NO EXCEPTIONS!
Remember that, the devil wants you to believe that your businesses should be run as a separate entity from your faith. In all you do, let your light shine before men, there is way too much darkness in this world.
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning – James 1 :17
As each one has received a gift, minister it to one another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God – 1 Peter 4:10
Do you see a man who excels in his work? He will stand before kings; He will not stand before unknown men Proverbs 22:29
I meet a lot of parents on a day to day basis, many thanks to being a school administrator. One thing parents I meet have in common is, they recognize the unique skills their children possess, they know what their children love to do and they know the activities that keep their children happy.
As our kids grow up, there is a lot to take in. We know what they love and we know what they hate and as believers, we do the very best we can to mould them in God’s ways. We teach them right from wrong and sometimes we even go the extra mile to invest in their talents. I remember enrolling my sons for piano lessons right from when they were 5 and 4 years old respectively, I was amazed at how fast they learnt and in no time they could even play the national anthem.
Soon after, God laid it in my heart to pray for my children’s hobbies, talents and skills. we spend money to develop their talents and skills, we spend money to foster their hobbies yet we somehow leave God out of the equation. The truth is, whatever we do not commit to God will not prosper (and when I say ‘prosper’ I don’t necessarily mean finances because prosperity goes way beyond that).
If you have not discovered something your child loves to do or what gifting he/she has, you could pray for God to help you discover those specific talents and hobbies. Understand that talents could be something as simple as reading, writing and even the ability to keep people calm.
Also teach your children about the parable of the talents found in Matthew 25:14-30 and Luke 19:11-27, it is a good way to explain to them how their talents, skills and hobbies are important to God and why God wants them to use their talents in a way that will glorify God.
Here is a guide to praying for your children’s talents, skills and hobbies:
Thanking God: Thank God for depositing that talent, skill and hobby in your child. Thank Him for the privilege to parent a child who is interested in singing, dancing, teaching, reading, talking etc.
Prayer of Stewardship: Pray that they can be good stewards of the talents, hobbies and skills that God has given them. Also pray that you will be able to guide them and teach them to use their talent, skills and hobbies in a manner that pleases God and aligns with God’s will.
Prayer of fruitfulness: Pray that their talents and hobbies will produce fruits. Think of what fruits could be produced by their talents. Ultimately, all talents should be used in a way that will point others to Christ. Their gifts and talents will also make a way for them, they will excel and the works of their hands will flourish.
Prayer of steadfastness: Pray that their talents will not cause them to derail from the faith. Let them stand firm in Christ and may they never deny the faith.
Prayer of pruning: Pray that any skill or talent that will not glorify God or that will make your children rebel against God should be cut off.
I always encourage parents to pray continually, keep praying about their skills and talents even as they grow and discover new skills and talents.
Ask any questions relating to this in the comments, also if you have tried this, let us know. God bless you!
Transitioning to a modest wardrobe is not the easiest thing. I struggled a bit. Once the Holy Spirit convicted me about my dress code, I knew changes had to be made. I got rid of some of the immodest items I owned, I head back to some of what I thought I could adjust or ‘modestify’.
Making this change also meant not being able to shop in certain stores and that’s okay. However, it also meant having certain handy items that could easily switch an immodest look to a modest one. This was a big deal for me as most of my clothes in time past had to reveal my cleavage.
1. Basic Vests: this is highly essential. I mostly use these to make v-necked outfits modest. The vests cover up the cleavage and still provide a trendy look. You could get them in several colours or you could start with black and white.
2. Kimono: I love kimonos!!!!! The switch up immodest to modest in a very elegant way. I got a lot of sleeveless and tube gowns when I was pregnant, kimonos helped me achieve modesty. Kimonos are timeless and I’d recommend them anyway.
3. A good seamstress: this is necessary especially if you are Nigerian. An awesome seamstress could add length to even ready to wear clothes as well as sleeves to a super short sleeved attire. If you shop online often, you need a good seamstress, sometimes you have no idea the length of an item until it arrives.
4. Midi – Maxi Skirts/dresses: nothing screams modest more than midi and maxi skirts. It took me a while to realize that I could be stylish and trendy with midi and maxi skirts. They have become an absolute fave for me. The key is to choose wisely. Don’t just buy a skirt because it is long or not short. Think of how you can style it and think of what other pieces in your wardrobe would complement it. pleated midi skirts are awesome, slip skirts are also pretty versatile.
5. Basic black skirt: this could be denim if you want but I’d suggest you have two. One in denim. We often hear people talk about the little black dress, I think for modest people, the basic black skirt is the staple we need. Super versatile, easy to find and you can never get enough. It could be casual, it could be official. Once you have your black skirts, you could add other colours to your collection.
Share your suggestions with me, what do you think are the must-haves for a modest wardrobe?
Hello all, it’s been a minute since I posted here. I apologize and I promise to do better.
A year or so ago, I taught my children about Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego. The emphasis then for me was learning to stand for God even if the whole world is not.
Have you ever wondered how difficult it must have been for Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego? They watched people they knew bow to the golden image. People they were probably friends with or may have been colleagues with.
Many of us cannot do things our friends do not approve of. Many of us cannot stand up for our faith in moments of adversity. Many of us, cannot quote certain aspects of scripture on social media for fear of backlash.
Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego did not care about the backlash. If the government says, those who worship God publicly will be locked up, many Christians will desist from public worship. Here is the my favourite part of the story:
“Now if you are ready at the time you hear the sound of the horn, flute, harp, lyre, and psaltery, in symphony with all kinds of music, and you fall down and worship the image which I have made, good! But if you do not worship, you shall be cast immediately into the midst of a burning fiery furnace. And who is the god who will deliver you from my hands?” Shadrach, Meshach, and Abed-Nego answered and said to the king, “O Nebuchadnezzar, we have no need to answer you in this matter. If that is the case, our God whom we serve is able to deliver us from the burning fiery furnace, and He will deliver us from your hand, O king. But if not, let it be known to you, O king, that we do not serve your gods, nor will we worship the gold image which you have set up.”” Daniel 3:15-18
They acknowledge how powerful God is, that God could save them. However, they clearly express that even if God did not save them from the doom about to befall them, they still will not bow to the golden image.
Dear Christian, these are the kind of children we need to raise. It may not be easy but it is possible. God is counting us to raise the Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego of the next generation. Giving our children Christian names is simply not enough.
Ask your children what aspect of this story they like the most. Also ask what they would have done if they were in the shoes of Shedrach Meshach and Abednego.
Finally, Ask them if they have friends who love God as much as they do.
Once upon a time, I lived a life without peace. I cannot to this day explain what exactly caused the lack of peace. If I had to, perhaps there would be a million little pieces of a giant puzzle.
I knew where the answer was, I had dodged it for so long and when I got tired of running, I looked to the only place I knew I could.
Even then, I wasn’t sure. I was sure of the solution but I was not sure where to begin. A part of me wanted to hear from people who had desperately searched for peace until they found it in Christ. Somehow that search led me to several blogs and authors. The list is a long one but one person stuck out to me- April Cassidy @peacefulwife .
To be honest, she didn’t say anything I didn’t already know (I mean no disrespect here). However, listening to her gave me so much encouragement and I went right to the source of peace. I had always known that this was the legit source of peace.
2 things became apparent :
Peace is a blessing!
“…The LORD will bless His people with peace.” Psalms 29:11 NKJV
If you need peace, you need to go to the source of peace. The manufacturer. If you can approach the creator, why settle for counterfeit? Many of the things we rely on do not bring peace. My masters degree didn’t give me peace neither did my wedding certificate etc.
Eventually I had to run to the source. The source gave to me freely.
In times of trouble, I still have peace because the gift of peace I received does not and will never depend on what goes on around me.
If you are searching for peace, allow me to introduce you to JESUS CHRIST, the Prince of PEACE.
P.S: I got this dress from a thrift store after someone convinced me to start shopping thrift! I love the dress so much!!!!!!!!!!!!! It has become a fave 🖤
Teaching life skills to kids is so important. I think for a child to excel in life, life skills must be an integral part of what the child learns from early on. When I set up my school, I made sure it was infused into the curriculum and I am so glad I did. There are so many life skills that would be beneficial and it may be daunting to decide which ones to go with first.
For now I am focusing on getting the kids to know their history( I may do a separate post on this later on), praying and Bible reading, cleanliness and housekeeping, book reading(one story book per week), focus and self control (teaching this can be challenging) and empathy.
For those who are interested but do not know how to, here are a few guidelines:
1. Patience: you need a high dose of patience to teach life skills to kids. This never crossed my mind until I got started. They are kids and they may not get it right at first, you may be required to keep on reminding them on the importance of cleanliness or whichever life skill you are teaching.
2. Consistency: you do not teach something once and leave it there. It doesn’t work with adults and would definitely not work with kids. One way to be consistent is to incorporate the said skill into your daily or weekly routine.
3. Practice what you teach: I needed my kids to read more rather than watch them become the tv zombies they are/were gradually morphing into. Sometimes, I would turn off the tv and announce ‘reading time’. I would pick up my book and ask them to pick up theirs. So while they are reading, I’m reading too.
4. Justify the skill: This is hands down my favourite part of teaching a skill. Explain to them why they need to learn this. Mine usually takes the form of ‘ Do you know why you need to read more books?’, then I let them guess. ‘Well here is why I think reading books will help you…’. In the end they understand the need for that skill.
5. Correct in love: when they get it wrong, don’t get mad. Understand that teaching your child to do dishes may mean one or two plates or mugs get broken and that’s okay. Teaching your child laundry may mean that as they learn, a few clothes may get stained and that is okay. There will be mistakes until they perfect the skill.
What life skills are you presently teaching to your children?
When I was pregnant with my second boy in 2014/2015, I remember the overwhelming anxiety I felt. There were stories about pregnant women being kidnapped and newborns being stolen (it was during the election season), I resorted to staying at home mostly just to be out of harm’s way.
I really cannot imagine what it is like being pregnant in this season of COVID-19. I was telling my husband how great it is not to be pregnant this period and then I remembered so many others are.
I read a post by @monmartt_kids and when I went through the comments, I saw that many pregnant women especially in Lagos have difficulties going to their ante natal appointments, some are anxious about what happens when they go into labour in this lockdown…frankly, there is so much to worry about.
Here are 13 Bible verses to help you out. Read and meditate on them. Pray using these verses and I pray that God will perfect all that concerns you and your pregnancy.
1. “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Psalms 56:3 ESV
2. “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6 ESV
3. “Say to those who have an anxious heart, “Be strong; fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you.”” Isaiah 35:4 ESV
4. “They shall not labor in vain or bear children for calamity, for they shall be the offspring of the blessed of the Lord, and their descendants with them.” Isaiah 65:23 ESV
5. “Do not be afraid of sudden terror or of the ruin of the wicked, when it comes, for the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.” Proverbs 3:25-26 ESV
6. “He is not afraid of bad news; his heart is firm, trusting in the Lord.” Psalms 112:7 ESV
7. “For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him.” 1 Samuel 1:27 ESV
8. “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock.” Isaiah 26:3-4 ESV
9. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.” Isaiah 55:8 ESV
10. “I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed.” Psalms 34:4-5 ESV
11. “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.” John 14:1 ESV
12. “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 ESV
13. “But overhearing what they said, Jesus said to the ruler of the synagogue, “Do not fear, only believe.”” Mark 5:36 ESV
The days are evil, times are hard, there is so much uncertainty but in all these God’s people will remain victorious.
When we hear innovation. Our minds usually wander towards big tech companies and so on. We think of computers, inventions and the rest.
It recently dawned on me that innovation does not have to so far away. Our everyday lives could use some innovation too.
How do you understand innovation? There is a definition by the UK department of innovation and skills which resonates
Innovation is the successful exploitation of new ideas
UK department of innovation and skills
The overall aim is to improve efficiency.
Innovation is introducing something new, like an idea, method and device.
Merriam- Webster Dictionary
The word ‘innovation’ is not in the Bible, however, the Bible is littered with examples of innovation and innovators. This lockdown period got me thinking about how I can be innovative in my home and my business.
I got a notebook to write out ideas as they come. From innovative ways to homeschool this period, innovative ways to evangelize, creating more family time to running my business.
Understand that innovation is not a modern concept. Here are some examples of innovation in the Bible:
1. God the creator. He created people in his own image (from dust). He created the earth. Genesis 1.
2. We see innovation in the shift from the old covenant to the new covenant. Jeremiah 31:31-34, Hebrews 9:15
3. We see a pattern of God constantly innovating the pattern through which he communicates with man. In the garden of Eden, He communed with man, later there came the era of judges, priests, kings, dreams, prophets. Right now we have the Bible and we can get to know God but studying diligently.
4. Noah’s ark. This must have been high level innovation in its time. Through this means, God preserved His own.
5. God’s decision to begin the nation of Israel through Abraham
6. We see Moses, Samson and even Gideon (among others) come up with various innovations in their time.
Here are a few questions to guide you as you figure this out:
1. Does your business/family life glorify God? In what ways have you honoured God?
2. How can you improve on this?
3. Identify areas where you went wrong in the past? how can you turn things around?
4. Pray. You need God’s direction. Just like he guided Moses, Gideon and Paul to accomplish their own tasks.
5. Faith. Faith is action! Faith helps you carry out whatever vision God gives you. I read somewhere that Faith honours God and God honours faith. Such a lovely perspective.
Christianity does not hinder creativity, we have the Holy Spirit who is an innovator. He was there in the beginning and abides with us today. God has given us talents and gifts, these are sacred! Use them to develop ideas that profit your family and business life.
God is always doing something new. Isaiah 43:19
Innovation is not an excuse for sin. Permitting things God does not permit is not innovation.
Be creative, let your creativity draw people to Christ, let the work of God be advanced through your creativity and overall let God be glorified.