LESSONS FROM PROVERBS 31

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Proverbs 31 is a much talked about chapter of the Bible yet I never actually bothered to study it until recently. I felt like I already knew what it was about since it is so often talked about. When I was planning to start up my business, I needed Biblical inspiration and motivation, I had read blogs and listened to sermons that vehemently dissuaded women from working- except domestic work of course.

To cut the long story short, I found all the motivation and inspiration I needed from Proverbs 31. I decided to read it and truly discover what the Proverbs 31 woman was all about. I learnt things about ‘her’ that I never even knew despite all the blogs i had read about the Proverbs 31 woman.

Note that the Proverbs 31 is not a set of rules of commandments but since everything in the Bible is written for our benefit, we must to some extent try to imbibe the qualities she possesses- for our own good of course. The first two verses of the chapter show that a mother is advising her son. Apply the guidelines to your life and watch things change.

Also, i advice that you have your Bible by your side as you read because I have only indicated verse numbers, I have not written out the verses.

Here are the lessons I derived from Proverbs 31 (mainly from verse 10-31):

  1. In every sense of it, the woman described in this chapter is an industrious, business woman and at the same time a homemaker.
  2. She is hardworking. Verse 13 explains this, she is willing to work and does not find reasons to be lazy. she works joyfully and wholeheartedly. she is resourceful and goes after opportunities that are of benefit to her and her family.
  3. Her husband trusts her. Verse 11 explains this. Her husband trusts her work (or hustle), he has nothing to worry about because she is a God-fearing woman. The home does not suffer because of her work, she is a business woman and a homemaker.
  4. She is creative. Verse 14 helps us understand this. She goes for the best irrespective of what other women are doing.
  5. She is an investor. Beautifully captured in verse 16. She makes money and reinvests. She works hard and makes profit. From the money she makes, she is able to purchase fields and yield more from the fields. She makes smart business decisions and is perceptive to good business opportunities.
  6. She is perceptive. As explained in verse 18-19. She can discern and make smart business decisions. she knows a good investment and she knows what is profitable, she is confident in her work because she knows God will reward her diligence. She makes use of her God given talent , she is industrious.
  7. She helps those in need. Verse 20 means that she does not gather for her family alone. She is a blessing to others.
  8. Her appearance glorifies God. Silk and purple referred to in verse 22 could mean royalty. Her family looks like royalty because of her, her appearance is good and glorifying, her dressing depicts the fear of God.
  9. She turns her skills into a business. Verse 24 reiterates that she is a business woman, her skills and talents profit the family.
  10. She is confident and unafraid. she does not fear the future, she does not worry about tomorrow because she knows God is already there, everyday is a good day and even on bad days, she can find reasons to rejoice in the Lord.
  11. She is a homemaker. In verse 27, she does what needs to be done to make the home appealing. Doing business or working does not mean she neglects the home. Whatever her hands find to do, she knows that the home is the first priority.
  12. Her family praises her. Verse 28 shows that because she is resourceful, industrious and diligent, her husband and children are proud of her and sing her praises.
  13. Beauty is vain. I love verse 30 so much because it makes it clear that what really matters is the fear of the Lord. Beauty is vain and not once is she praised because she is pretty or gorgeous rather the works of her hands do the talking. Her beauty and looks are not mentioned because they are vanity.
  14. Her reputation speaks for her. In verse 31 we see that she does not need to brag or blow her own trumpet, her hard work and handwork speaks for her. Her reputation shines because of how resourceful she is.

Every time you feel like quitting your business or whenever you feel stuck, remember that God already gave you guidelines on how to manage and navigate the tough world of business.

Jehovah Ezer- The Lord my help(er).

I wonder how many people are familiar with this name of God? Jehovah Ezer! I recently began a preschool and elementary school business and I have come to realize that I need Jehovah Ezer a lot more than I could ever imagine.

I found a lot of favour throughout the process and I knew for certain that it could only be God because I never could have done it on my own.

In Psalm 124:8 David affirmed that our help is in the Lord who made heaven and earth. Also Psalm 121:2, Psalm 115:9-11, Psalm 46:1-2, Psalm 18:6-19 she’s more light on Jehovah Ezer.

I have heard myself say ‘God help me’ or ‘God would help me’ over and over because really that is where my hope lays.

If you did not know already, know this: as a believer you have Jehovah Ezer whom you could run to for help when you are stuck, lost, stranded, frustrated, insecure, afraid and weak.

Proverbs 18:10 says ‘the name of the Lord is a strong tower, the righteous run into it and they are safe.

I just wanted to encourage someone who feels overwhelmed or burdened. You have help! You have all the help you need. Simply call on Jehovah Ezer.

Keeping a Prayer Journal

It has been on my mind a lot lately to start a prayer journal because I know that my prayer life needs a mighty intervention.

I eventually got to it, I didn’t want to create any rules for journaling since I have not particularly been great at journaling. I just know that whatever I put in there has to come straight from the heart.

Keeping a prayer journal is important because I usually forget my prayer points. As I go through the day a lot of things to pray about cross my mind and when I eventually pray, I forget the things I should have prayed about.

Note that a prayer journal is not a substitute for actually praying rather it is to aid you in organizing your thoughts before you pray. It is also a good way to keep a record of things you have prayed about.

As much as possible try to be consistent. I am including a thanksgiving corner or section in mine where I can write down the things God has done for me.

The above pic is my prayer journal. I had bought the Becoming momstrong book set by Heidi St John which included a journal. I decided to use it as my prayer journal.

Also, to encourage regular journaling, I suggest you keep your journal with your bible and bible study book (if you have one). That way, every time you have quiet time or devotion, you would be reminded to make a journal entry.

I will post updates and you can let me know in the comments if you have a prayer journal or if this post has encouraged you to keep one.

Praying For Your Church 1

It is so important to pray for the church you attend. Apostle Paul on several occasions prayed for the different churches he wrote letters to. Some of these instances can be seen in: 2 Thessalonians 1:11, Colossians 1:9-10, Ephesians 1:16-17, Romans 15:14-33, Philippians 1:9-11.

When it comes to praying for your church, keep in mind that it is the people (you and the others who attend) that make up the church. The Apostle, Elder, Pastor, Evangelist etc on their own can not constitute a church. To this end, when you pray for the church, you are praying not just for yourself but for the community you fellowship with.

If you think about it, not praying for your church is somewhat unfair and careless. Just a glance at the church (whatever church you attend) and you will see possible prayer points literally scattered around.

In recent times, God has laid in my heart the need to pray for my church and I am happy to share some of what I will be praying about here but bear in mind that it will not be a one off prayer. We need to continually pray for our churches during our personal devotions, prayer groups, prayer meetings etc.

Below is a guide on how I will be praying:

1. Pray for a revival in the church.

Psalm 85:6, 2 Chronicles 7:14, Habakkuk 3:2, Psalm 51:10, Acts 3:19, Psalm 19:7

We need a spiritual revival. So many of us have become so laid back in our walk with God. We have forgotten where God brought us from and where or what we could have been. A spiritual revival is the greatest need of the church of today. Churches have been overshadowed by worldliness and our prayer lives are at an all time low. We need the Holy Spirit to light a fire in us. Generally speaking, people attend churches on Sundays for show whereas prayer meetings and calls for evangelism are so poorly attended. There is a lack of love and oneness. We need God to awaken us, we need our dry bones to live again. We need to be on fire for God. We need an outpouring of the Holy Spirit. We need true repentance not self deception.

2. Pray For The Aged and Elderly

1 Thessalonians 5:16, Psalm 26:20, Romans 8:32, Philippians 4:19, Psalm 5:11, Psalm 46:1

I don’t know any one who wants to die young, if we have our way, we would live long enough to see our children’s children at the very least. It is never about how long we live, how we lived and our relationship with our creator is much more important. Pray that the elderly in your church will continue to remember the faithfulness of God and how he has been loving and faithful time and time again. Pray for God’s provision, Let their children and caretakers show them grace and let God supply their needs till they are called home. Pray for their eternity, at the end of their journey on earth they shall be ushered into eternal glory, let God keep them in the faith and let them flourish. Also pray that their old years would be peaceful. Let them let go of grudges, bitterness and guilt as they hold fast to God given joy, peace and laughter.

3. Pray that our churches will stay true to the message of God as contained in the Bible .

2 Timothy 4:2-3, 2 Timothy 3:1-17, Jude 1:3-4

Whether or not it is convenient especially in today’s society, we need the courage and boldness to stand up for the truth. Let the church ignore worldly sentiments and be committed to teaching the truth.

4. Pray For The Various Departments (Units) of The Church.

1 Corinthians 16:15, James 3:13, James 2:18

Pray that the members of each unit of the church serve wholeheartedly and that those who have not repented should have life changing encounters with God. Pray that their services in the house of God will not be in vain. Ask for God’s blessings upon them. As you pray, you can call the various departments/units by name e.g Ushering, Media, Choir, Sanitation, Women, Youths, Children, Security, Prison outreach etc.

5. Pray for The Leaders In Your Church.

2 Corinthians 4:1, 1 Corinthians 4:1-3, Exodus 33:13, 1 Timothy 5:17, Acts 6:4, Titus 1:7, 1 Timothy 3:8-9, Acts 6:3, 1 Peter 5:2-3.

They go by various names in various churches. There are Apostles, Elders, Deacons, Deaconesses, Pastors, Sunday School Teachers etc

Pray that they can serve God with sincerity, passion and dedication. When things get tough especially in the ministry, Let God keep them in the faith. As they lead in various aspects, let them find favour in the sight of God and let their services be pleasing and acceptable to God. Ask God to bless the works of their hands, let their careers and families flourish. Let their households be blessed with joy, comfort, laughter and peace. Let their spouses and children be sources of joy, comfort and peace. Let them be bold as lions as they stand up for the truth, let them lead and teach in love and truth. Let them show commitment, grace, generosity and kindness, Let the spirit of God guide them in all that they do, give them shepherd hearts to enable them guide the church and let their lives be rooted in Christ.

6. Pray For The Children In Your Church.

Proverbs 20:11, Ecclesiastes 12:1, Psalm 71:17, 2 Timothy 2:22, Proverbs 1:10

Pray that the children in your church will grow in God’s grace and favour. Pray that they will remember their creator in the days of their youth. Let them chase after the kingdom of God and let God sustain them till they are old. Pray for their parents/guardians and caregivers, ask God to provide for them and give them the wisdom needed to bring up the children in the fear of the Lord. Pray for God’s protection over them as they go to school, parks etc.

7. Pray for Financial Blessings.

2 Corinthians 9:6-12, Deuteronomy 8:18, Proverbs 10:22, Psalm 145:15

Pray for God to empower you and other members of the church financially so that in turn you can sponsor church projects and show generosity to those in need.

8. Pray For More Souls To Be Added To The Church.

Acts 2:47, Acts 4:4, Acts 6:7

Pray for growth through evangelism. As you preach and share the gospel of Christ, Let souls be converted, let sinners repent and let them join the church. Also let our actions win over people to God’s kingdom. Help us to be real ambassadors of Christ in all facets of life. Ask God to give you and other members of the church a genuine passion for lost souls and ask for boldness to preach the word just like the Apostles of old.

12 Memory Verses for Children

I must confess, I grossly underestimated how smart toddlers can be until I started having children. I watched in awe as my children would memorize things so quickly and would never forget. I would ask them after a long period of time and they would remember every detail. They would learn all sorts of rhymes and silly songs, phonics, ABCs, basic science, social studies and all the other stuff secular curriculum has to offer. That is when I made the decision to incorporate bible verses into the stuff the learn and memorize, not only will this knowledge be of immense value to them in the future, it helps me memorize more verses because let’s face it, memorizing these things are more difficult when you are an adult. However, repeating the verses over and over again with them helps me memorize and learn more.  The verses in this post are easy to learn but I would advise that you be patient with them as they learn and do not insist on instant perfection. Teach gracefully and make it fun, that way they would be excited to learn more. I do one verse per week and also do not fret if you miss a week, just pick up from where you stopped. I was intention about the verses I picked out, children from 2 years old can memorize this. Kindly leave me feedback via email, Instagram or Facebook if this works for you.

  1. John 1:17- For the law was given by Moses, but grace and truth came by Jesus Christ
  2. Philippians 4:4- Rejoice in the Lord alway: and again I say, rejoice
  3. Ephesians 4:5- One Lord, One faith, One baptism
  4. James 1:2- My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations
  5. Luke 7:48-  And He said unto her, thy sins are forgiven
  6. Genesis 1:1- In the beginning God created the heaven and the earth
  7. Proverbs 1:10- My son, if sinners entice thee, consent thou not
  8. John 1:1- in the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word was God
  9. John 15:9- as the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love
  10. Like 21:33- Heaven and earth shall pass away: but my words shall not pass away
  11. Acts 15:11- For we believe that through the grave of our Lord Jesus Christ we shall be saved, even as they
  12. Psalm 106:1- Praise ye the Lord. O give thanks unto the Lord; for He is good, for His mercy endure the forever

Vain Arguments…

Many of the arguments you think are of benefit to the body of Christ are distractions sent straight from the pit of Hell! Do not fall for them! You know what the Bible says, read and ask the Holy Spirit to minister to you as you read! You have no business arguing the things of God with carnal minds and I mean this.

Remember what 1 Corinthians 2:14 says:

But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.”

By the grace of God, I am now able to ignore certain things. I know once in a while when controversy comes up, we need to put our spiritual convictions and Biblical truths out there but I honestly believe that dwelling on those controversies are not what God has called us to do. Have you also noticed that when you dwell on those controversies it could cause you to sin? Like anger, profanity etc. In this Christian race, discernment is essential, we are asked to judge (yes!!! I used the dreaded J word), we are asked to judge righteously.

“Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment.”

John 7:24 KJV

“But he that is spiritual judgeth all things, yet he himself is judged of no man.”

1 Corinthians 2:15 KJV

“And this I pray, that your love may abound yet more and more in knowledge and in all judgment;”

Philippians 1:9 KJV

“Do ye not know that the saints shall judge the world? and if the world shall be judged by you, are ye unworthy to judge the smallest matters? Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life?”

1 Corinthians 6:2-3 KJV

Many of the people who stir up these controversies that do not in anyway edify the body of Christ are satanic agents and the unfortunate thing is they will more often than not succeed in dragging down people with them. Many will forsake biblical Doctrines they once knew just because of these satanic agents. Be careful people, these last days are brutal! We underestimate how busy Satan is even when we have been warned severally in the scriptures.

In the words of Pastor Ukpabio:

The word of God is a revelation from the spirit of God. Only those with it can understand it. That’s why the Bible in the hands of an atheist or unbeliever produces silly doctrines and misguided interpretations. It’s not human Wisdom.

But avoid foolish questions, and genealogies, and contentions, and strivings about the law; for they are unprofitable and vain. -Titus 3:9

A man that is an heretick after the first and second admonition reject; -Titus 3:10

The Bible says speak once , then a second time then leave him alone. That’s why it’s important, that before having religious arguments or confrontations, say a short word of prayer and tell the Holy Spirit to open their eyes and give them understanding. This tip comes in handy when you are having one on one conversations with people as opposed to the social media controversies we see these days.

Jesus did the same thing when he was on earth, So many times when he spoke, they did not understand and he emphatically told them that:

It is the spirit that quickeneth; the flesh profiteth nothing: the words that I speak unto you, they are spirit, and they are life. -John 6:63

But there are some of you that believe not. For Jesus knew from the beginning who they were that believed not, and who should betray him. -John 6:64

So what he spoke was Spirit. So once it got too complicated and they could not understand because they didn’t have the Holy Spirit, Jesus opened their eyes and gave them understanding to know scriptures

Then opened he their understanding, that they might understand the scriptures, -Luke 24:45

I pray that God will give us the grace not to be led astray by carnally minded people who use the scriptures to make a name for themselves. I also pray that no matter how liberating, logical or empowering these false teachers sound, God should keep us steadfast in His word and service till our time is up on earth.

Dear Mum,do you have idols?

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“Little children, keep yourselves from idols. Amen.”

‭‭1 John‬ ‭5:21‬ ‭KJV‬‬

Let me begin with something you already know and that is: God is a jealous God (Exodus 20:5). Now, what is an idol? One of the definitions of idol according to Oxford Learners Dictionary is a statue that is worshipped as God. This definition is what most of us are familiar with as far as idol worship is concerned especially those of us in Africa. However, there is another definition and that is a person or thing that is loved and admired very much. The Webster dictionary also defines idolatry as excessive devotion or reverence for a person or thing.

One of the best definitions I have come across is by April Cassidy who rightly points out that anything that we believe we must have to be happy that isn’t Christ is an idol. A very simple and straightforward definition. In modern times, idolatry has progressed beyond bowing in front of images and statutes. Let me also add that idols could be persons, ideas, loyalties or things that take center stage in our lives (which is where Christ should be). So you see, idolatry can also be a matter of the heart. For the purpose of this article, I would focus on three modern idols Christian mothers tend to accommodate: Marriage, Husbands and Children.

1. Marriage

Marriage‬‬ is ordained by God and is a sacred thing (‭‭Matthew‬ ‭19:4-6‬). However, God never intended for it to take His place in our lives. The entire purpose of marriage is to glorify God as well as mirror the marriage of Jesus Christ to the church (Colossians 1:16, Matthew 23:20, Matthew 22:30).

Our earthly marriage will pass away but you know something, there will be an even greater marriage in heaven- the marriage between Christ and the church. In Hebrews 13:4 we see that marriage is honorable. In the amplified version honor is explained as something of great value which means that while we treasure marriage and strive to please God in our marriages, our marriages are not as important as God Himself. DO NOT PLACE YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE GOD.

How many of us are so obsessed with the thoughts of having a great marriage that it consumes our thoughts daily?

My advice is give God His place in your life and marriage otherwise you will miss out on the great marriage that is to take place in heaven. After all, our fleshly marriage is only a reflection of the greater marriage to come. Remember Jesus is often referred to as the Bridegroom and the church His bride ( John 3:29, Matthew 22:1-4, Revelation 19:7-9).

2. Husbands.

The interesting thing here is that many people who idolize their husbands do not even realize that they do this. I know this for sure because I have actually been there and in my case, I only began to know peace when I gave God his rightful place. I guess unreasonably high expectations may be one of the reasons spouses in general become idols. Are you looking to your husband to fulfill your every need? You do not need to idolize your spouse in order to be happy, in fact doing so brings about the exact opposite. How much do you rely on your husband who by the way is human? Do you seek from your husband things you should seek from God such as wisdom, love, inspiration etc. I am not saying your husband should not inspire or love you however seek those things from God first. Your husband is human and his abilities and strength may fail you- remember that your husband should also be totally dependent on God. Stop wanting your husband to be EVERYTHING!

3. Children

This one has a two pronged effect. You see when our children become idols, not only do we hurt ourselves but we hurt them too. When our children become the center of our lives and trying to make them constantly happy becomes the paramount thing, we err. When your children become idols everything else suffers- time with God, time with your spouse, finances (because you want to buy EVERYTHING you possibly can for them). I need to reiterate that I am not saying you should not make your children happy but often parents who make this the paramount thing in life often fail to discipline their children and teach them right from wrong. Every and anything the children do is okay. Sometimes we compromise on Godly principles and standards just to keep them happy and rather than correct them, we say things like “they are only kids” even when the children in question are old enough to be held accountable for certain behaviors.

The Bible says children are a blessing (a gift from the Lord Psalm 127:3-5) but they are not our sufficiency. They are not our all in all. Christ is our sufficiency (2 Corinthians 3:5, 2 Corinthians 9:8).

While we do not and will probably never explicitly admit even to ourselves that we have idolized our marriages, husbands and children, our actions speak otherwise. I thank God for showing me this aspect of my life and I also felt the need to share with others.

Making time for God when there is no time at all.

whether you are a stay at home mum or a working mum, you can agree with me that we barely have enough time. Our to-do-lists seem to be never ending and on most days, we have several items we do not check off our lists and schedules.

It should not surprise you to know that you are not alone.

For many people, there is this feeling of being distant or disconnected from God. You know you should spend time with God, you know it has been a while, you miss communing with God, you miss hearing from God but you need to do the dishes, get the house cleaned up, go to school, go to work, write a ton of reports, prepare food, go to the market etc. You simply do not have the time and you honestly feel like God understands the depths of your heart and he knows really well that given the ‘time’ you would pray and study the word.

But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33

The one thing to note is that sacrifice is essential for any relationship to thrive. The truth is, you can always find time for God. Do you love God enough to sacrifice time for Him?

And when he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when the evening was come, he was there alone.Matthew 14:23

And in the morning, rising up a great while before day, he went out, and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed. Mark 1:35

My dad recently told me something about ‘tithe of time’. Very interesting. He said we tithe on our money which is good but what of our time? What is ten percent of 24 hours? That is the minimum time we should spend with God everyday. These words pierced deep into my soul, I never saw it from that angle. I spent a full week wondering where I could get at least 2 hours and 15 minutes to spend with God. Turns out I did not even have to look too far.

Everytime I wake up. I meet my husband studying and making notes. He wakes up an hour or two earlier than he should, that is when He studies the Bible and i decided to follow suit. On the days I have to go to school (it is a 3-4 hour journey), I read my Bible on the road. And you know with technology, the Bible app is very handy. This goes way beyond reading one verse or checking out the verse of the day. Read chapters. Make notes. Read. Pray.

Just Read and keep on reading.

It is all about priorities. For instance, On the long journey to school, I could listen to music all they way, read a novel or even sleep (cos Lord knows I need sleep…lol) but spending time with God is important, so important that the other options simply do not matter.

That is my story. Now it is your turn, how is your schedule? You want to pray, you want to read the word of God but you are too caught up with life to do that. How much time do you spend on social media? Can you sacrifice that time for God? How much time do you spend on reading books that do not any way or form enhance your spiritual life? Give that time to God. How much time do you spend on movies and tv shows? Give that time to God.

There is an interesting story in Acts 24:24-27 of Felix who had a chance to be saved but said the time was not convenient. You miss out on a lot when you do not spend time with God. How do you even grow spiritually? How do you hear from God? How do find guidance and purpose in life?

Which of these excuses sound familiar: ‘Let me take a nap, I will spend time with God when I wake up’, ‘As soon as the demands from work reduce, I will have time for God’, ‘I will find time when…’

When it comes to spending time with God, do not procrastinate. If sin is the reason you seem to never have time for God, deal with that sin. Have a relationship with God not a one night stand. God needs committed people who love Him and are willing to spend time with Him. Are you one? Are you willing to be one?

When you are afraid…


​David faced so many trials, most of them were life threatening. The only way he survived was by completely trusting God. Being a believer means becoming a warrior. Yes. They go together, kind of like a package deal. The devil will target you if you are a believer, the devil will relentlessly war against you to destroy your faith and confidence in God. So many people have lost faith in the course of their walk with God due to trials and adversities. Many times, he even attacks your testimony as a believer and even fellow members of the body of Christ may doubt you. Do not be shaken. Let me repeat, do not be shaken. I love Psalm 27 so much and I love the fact that David always turned to God for hope and vindication in times of trials. If you are passing through similar times, read this psalm over and over again. Develop the heart of a warrior just like David. Focus on God and you will be victorious.