LESSONS FROM PROVERBS 31

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Proverbs 31 is a much talked about chapter of the Bible yet I never actually bothered to study it until recently. I felt like I already knew what it was about since it is so often talked about. When I was planning to start up my business, I needed Biblical inspiration and motivation, I had read blogs and listened to sermons that vehemently dissuaded women from working- except domestic work of course.

To cut the long story short, I found all the motivation and inspiration I needed from Proverbs 31. I decided to read it and truly discover what the Proverbs 31 woman was all about. I learnt things about ‘her’ that I never even knew despite all the blogs i had read about the Proverbs 31 woman.

Note that the Proverbs 31 is not a set of rules of commandments but since everything in the Bible is written for our benefit, we must to some extent try to imbibe the qualities she possesses- for our own good of course. The first two verses of the chapter show that a mother is advising her son. Apply the guidelines to your life and watch things change.

Also, i advice that you have your Bible by your side as you read because I have only indicated verse numbers, I have not written out the verses.

Here are the lessons I derived from Proverbs 31 (mainly from verse 10-31):

  1. In every sense of it, the woman described in this chapter is an industrious, business woman and at the same time a homemaker.
  2. She is hardworking. Verse 13 explains this, she is willing to work and does not find reasons to be lazy. she works joyfully and wholeheartedly. she is resourceful and goes after opportunities that are of benefit to her and her family.
  3. Her husband trusts her. Verse 11 explains this. Her husband trusts her work (or hustle), he has nothing to worry about because she is a God-fearing woman. The home does not suffer because of her work, she is a business woman and a homemaker.
  4. She is creative. Verse 14 helps us understand this. She goes for the best irrespective of what other women are doing.
  5. She is an investor. Beautifully captured in verse 16. She makes money and reinvests. She works hard and makes profit. From the money she makes, she is able to purchase fields and yield more from the fields. She makes smart business decisions and is perceptive to good business opportunities.
  6. She is perceptive. As explained in verse 18-19. She can discern and make smart business decisions. she knows a good investment and she knows what is profitable, she is confident in her work because she knows God will reward her diligence. She makes use of her God given talent , she is industrious.
  7. She helps those in need. Verse 20 means that she does not gather for her family alone. She is a blessing to others.
  8. Her appearance glorifies God. Silk and purple referred to in verse 22 could mean royalty. Her family looks like royalty because of her, her appearance is good and glorifying, her dressing depicts the fear of God.
  9. She turns her skills into a business. Verse 24 reiterates that she is a business woman, her skills and talents profit the family.
  10. She is confident and unafraid. she does not fear the future, she does not worry about tomorrow because she knows God is already there, everyday is a good day and even on bad days, she can find reasons to rejoice in the Lord.
  11. She is a homemaker. In verse 27, she does what needs to be done to make the home appealing. Doing business or working does not mean she neglects the home. Whatever her hands find to do, she knows that the home is the first priority.
  12. Her family praises her. Verse 28 shows that because she is resourceful, industrious and diligent, her husband and children are proud of her and sing her praises.
  13. Beauty is vain. I love verse 30 so much because it makes it clear that what really matters is the fear of the Lord. Beauty is vain and not once is she praised because she is pretty or gorgeous rather the works of her hands do the talking. Her beauty and looks are not mentioned because they are vanity.
  14. Her reputation speaks for her. In verse 31 we see that she does not need to brag or blow her own trumpet, her hard work and handwork speaks for her. Her reputation shines because of how resourceful she is.

Every time you feel like quitting your business or whenever you feel stuck, remember that God already gave you guidelines on how to manage and navigate the tough world of business.

Memory verses for children

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.SONY DSC

It is important to teach our children the word of God and the earlier the better. I taught my first son the first memory verse when he was about two and a half. It was “One Lord, one faith, one baptism- Ephesians 4:5”. It was such a joyous moment to hear him recite it. I must confess, I had taught him that verse with the hopes that he would be able to recite in the children’s week of that year (in front of the whole church) because children in the church I attend often do Bible recitations. When it became apparent that He would not be able (and would not even be steady) to recite in public, I decided to wait another year till when he would be a little more mature. This year, I resumed with the memory verses and it has been fantastic. The best part is, my second son who is two years old memorizes the verses too. I love how excited they are about each new verse and how they excitedly recap the verses of the previous week.

And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.Deuteronomy 11:19

When I was a child, my parents taught us in this way too. Believe me when I say, it never departs from your children. To this very day, I remember most of those verses. Sometimes, when it seemed we could not memorize certain verses, my mum made it into a song to enable us learn faster.God is awesome and I am thankful for the opportunity God has given me to raise future members of His army. Children have so much trust in their parents that they will learn whatever we teach them. Read Bible stories to them, make it fun and exciting, read to them over and over again and make it interactive. Stimulating their interest in God is for your own good (well…and theirs too).

I realized that when I recite the memory verses with my children over and over again, It also helps me learn the verses i never knew. So get on board. From time to time, I will post some of the verses my children have learnt and are learning as guide for those who are willing to introduce memory verse learning to their children. Stay tuned!!!

We will not hide them from their children,
shewing to the generation to come
the praises of the Lord, and his strength,
and his wonderful works that he hath done. Psalm 78:4

Opening up to the word of God…

I think I will be approaching this verse from a slightly different angle than we are used to.

A few days ago, certain events got me thinking about how wrong or inappropriate it is to refuse correction or wise counsel from someone just because we think the person kids or friends or siblings do not behave well.

Let me give an example:

Person A: I think you should try doing this, you know the Bible says…..

Person B: you should teach that to your kids or how can you advice me when your own kids do not……

How wrong! How inappropriate! I have often been caught in this ungodly behaviour but you know something? A person does not have to be obeyed or respected by his family to be used by God. God doesn’t work based on human sentiments. The fact that that friends and family do not respect a person’s Christian work or faith doesn’t mean you cannot take that person seriously when it comes to the things of God.

If there are certain preachers you refuse to take seriously simply because the behaviours of their children do not reflect the scripture then you may be judging too quickly. Understand that your leaders in church are not perfect and often times, the devil tries to get at them through their families.

My advice would be to pray for them rather than write them off.