Biblical Examples of GOOD FRIENDSHIPS

  1. David and Jonathan: Sometimes you meet people and instantly there is a connection. This was the case here (1 Samuel 18:1-3). Jonathan’s father (King Saul) was jealous of David and sought to kill him. The plots never worked because Jonathan (who knew his friend was innocoent) saved him from his father. Jonathan loved David as he loved himself. 1 Samuel 20.
  2. Ruth and Naomi: This was a friendship between a daughter-in-law and a mother-in-law. Even when things became tough, Ruth did not want to leave Naomi. She did not even expect anything in return from Naomi. Ruth 1:1-22.
  3. Daniel, Shedrach, Meshach and Abednego: I particularly love this example as it applies to or can apply to a group of friends. Daniel requested that his friends get promoted to high positions (Daniel 2:49). Friends look out for each other and ernestly desire progress for each other.
  4. Jesus, Mary, Martha and Lazarus: They had a close friendship. Jesus often ate with them (Luke 10:38) and Martha was being very honest with Jesus when she said Lazarus would have been alive if Jesus was present.
  5. Paul, Timothy and Epaphroditus: Another friendship I love and admire because not only were they so loyal to each other, they loved the Lord and worked in the Lord’s vineyard tirelessly. Philippians 2:19-26.

These are by no means all the examples of good friendships in the Bible. I chose to emphasize on the 5 listed above. These examples show us the meaning and qualities of true friendships. Ask God to help you become a true friend and pray for your friendships to glorify God (lol…I know I say this a lot). Also, learn to pray for your friends. Proverbs 27:17 says iron sharpens iron and one man sharpens another, do not underestimate the impact you have on your friends and vice- versa. Evaluate yourself as a friend, Can your friends see the Christ in you?

Examples of BAD FRIENDSHIPS in the Bible

Last time, I emphasised on the need for “Godly Friends”. Anyway, I got curious about friendships even more. So I decided to search the scriptures even more- I wanted specific examples and stories of good and bad friendships in the Bible. Interestingly, the Bible is jumbled with friendship stories- the good, the bad and the ugly. I love the Bible. 

1.) Judas: he was a bad friend because he was self centred and put his interests over his friendship with Jesus. He was a fake friend, Jesus said Judas would betray him and Judas refuted. On the betrayal day, his fake kiss led to Jesus’ capture. Matthew 26:16-17, Luke 22:48-48

2.) Ahithophel: Another example of a fake friend. He was David’s “trusted” counselor and friend (Psalm 41:9) who not only fed the king with lousy advice and ultimately wanted to overthrow the kingdom (2 Samuel 15:10-17,23).

3.) Pharaoh’s cupbearer: Remember him? Joseph met him in jail. They became friends, Joseph interpreted his dream. He made a promise to Joseph that he would remember him when he got out of jail but he forgot Joseph (Genesis 40:1-23).

I will do a follow up post on good Biblical friendships worthy of emulation.