My new year greeting is coming in a bit late I know and sincerely apologize. I lost access to my Facebook account and we have a large following there, I was hoping to send one message via all the platforms.
I am so excited for this year because I am reminded of how merciful God has been. I know many of us are feeling super grateful especially considering how the past almost two years have been.
What is your plan for the year? I do not do resolutions as such however, I do have a general mindset every year of drawing closer to God and learning more scripturally. It applies to this year as well.
I also set business goals (we will talk about this much later).
Family goals remain the same but more intense as my children grow up! My 8 year old is beginning to ask interesting questions and I must say, I need your prayers 😂
Welcome to 2022 my beloved people. May we draw nearer to the Lord this year. Amen!!!
Teaching life skills to kids is so important. I think for a child to excel in life, life skills must be an integral part of what the child learns from early on. When I set up my school, I made sure it was infused into the curriculum and I am so glad I did. There are so many life skills that would be beneficial and it may be daunting to decide which ones to go with first.
For now I am focusing on getting the kids to know their history( I may do a separate post on this later on), praying and Bible reading, cleanliness and housekeeping, book reading(one story book per week), focus and self control (teaching this can be challenging) and empathy.
For those who are interested but do not know how to, here are a few guidelines:
1. Patience: you need a high dose of patience to teach life skills to kids. This never crossed my mind until I got started. They are kids and they may not get it right at first, you may be required to keep on reminding them on the importance of cleanliness or whichever life skill you are teaching.
2. Consistency: you do not teach something once and leave it there. It doesn’t work with adults and would definitely not work with kids. One way to be consistent is to incorporate the said skill into your daily or weekly routine.
3. Practice what you teach: I needed my kids to read more rather than watch them become the tv zombies they are/were gradually morphing into. Sometimes, I would turn off the tv and announce ‘reading time’. I would pick up my book and ask them to pick up theirs. So while they are reading, I’m reading too.
4. Justify the skill: This is hands down my favourite part of teaching a skill. Explain to them why they need to learn this. Mine usually takes the form of ‘ Do you know why you need to read more books?’, then I let them guess. ‘Well here is why I think reading books will help you…’. In the end they understand the need for that skill.
5. Correct in love: when they get it wrong, don’t get mad. Understand that teaching your child to do dishes may mean one or two plates or mugs get broken and that’s okay. Teaching your child laundry may mean that as they learn, a few clothes may get stained and that is okay. There will be mistakes until they perfect the skill.
What life skills are you presently teaching to your children?
When I was pregnant with my second boy in 2014/2015, I remember the overwhelming anxiety I felt. There were stories about pregnant women being kidnapped and newborns being stolen (it was during the election season), I resorted to staying at home mostly just to be out of harm’s way.
I really cannot imagine what it is like being pregnant in this season of COVID-19. I was telling my husband how great it is not to be pregnant this period and then I remembered so many others are.
I read a post by @monmartt_kids and when I went through the comments, I saw that many pregnant women especially in Lagos have difficulties going to their ante natal appointments, some are anxious about what happens when they go into labour in this lockdown…frankly, there is so much to worry about.
Here are 13 Bible verses to help you out. Read and meditate on them. Pray using these verses and I pray that God will perfect all that concerns you and your pregnancy.
1. “When I am afraid, I put my trust in you.” Psalms 56:3 ESV
2. “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ.” Philippians 1:6 ESV
3. “Say to those who have an anxious heart, “Be strong; fear not! Behold, your God will come with vengeance, with the recompense of God. He will come and save you.”” Isaiah 35:4 ESV
4. “They shall not labor in vain or bear children for calamity, for they shall be the offspring of the blessed of the Lord, and their descendants with them.” Isaiah 65:23 ESV
5. “Do not be afraid of sudden terror or of the ruin of the wicked, when it comes, for the Lord will be your confidence and will keep your foot from being caught.” Proverbs 3:25-26 ESV
6. “He is not afraid of bad news; his heart is firm, trusting in the Lord.” Psalms 112:7 ESV
7. “For this child I prayed, and the Lord has granted me my petition that I made to him.” 1 Samuel 1:27 ESV
8. “You keep him in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on you, because he trusts in you. Trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is an everlasting rock.” Isaiah 26:3-4 ESV
9. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, declares the Lord.” Isaiah 55:8 ESV
10. “I sought the Lord, and he answered me and delivered me from all my fears. Those who look to him are radiant, and their faces shall never be ashamed.” Psalms 34:4-5 ESV
11. “Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me.” John 14:1 ESV
12. “do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7 ESV
13. “But overhearing what they said, Jesus said to the ruler of the synagogue, “Do not fear, only believe.”” Mark 5:36 ESV
The days are evil, times are hard, there is so much uncertainty but in all these God’s people will remain victorious.
The sons of Eli the priest were unruly and they dishonoured God time and time again. Eli could not discipline his children. Eli was a busy man, busy working for the Lord while neglecting his family but you know something, God did not see it that way.
1 Samuel 2:12-36
According to the laws given in Numbers 15:22-31, Eli’s sons should have been executed. Perhaps that was why he could not confront the situation. However, God had to step in. Hophni and Phinehas were seducing women who came to the tabernacle to worship, they treated the offerings of the Lord with contempt and they were unruly.
When God called Samuel, He told Samuel what he would do to Eli who could not control his children. Samuel was still a boy at this time.
1 Samuel 3:10-15
Many years later, the boy Samuel had become a grown man with a family of his own. He served God in several ramifications: as a judge, a priest and a prophet. Remember, Samuel was an answer to Hannah’s prayer and Hannah handed him over to God. however, Samuel just like Eli could not control his children. His children were nothing like him. They took bribes and perverted judgements
1 Samuel 8:3-5
They were so bad that the people would rather have a king rule over them than continue in the system of priests and judges. When you dedicate your life to serving God, grooming children with the fear of God is part of the service.
Discipline and correction is part of love. when you leave your children to behave however they like, know that there will be a day of reckoning. We are in the era of the new covenant so God would require you or anyone else to execute your child for perpetual wrongful doing but remember that their eternity is at stake and you will give an account to God on how you raised your child.
This is why I encourage parents to pray for their children even before they are born and the prayers should not stop when they are born. In James 5:16, we see that the effectual fervent prayers of a righteous person avails much, and James 2:20 &26 tells us that faith without works is dead. While we pray and trust God to keep our children in the ways of the Lord, we still need to do the needful.
Teach them, guide them, caution, correct, discipline and pray for them. Hophni and Phinehas had a terrible end and it is my earnest prayer that my children and the children of those reading this post will fear the Lord and love Him for who He is. Let us be faithful mothers. Let us be the faithful parents God has called us to be.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
It is important to teach our children the word of God and the earlier the better. I taught my first son the first memory verse when he was about two and a half. It was “One Lord, one faith, one baptism- Ephesians 4:5”. It was such a joyous moment to hear him recite it. I must confess, I had taught him that verse with the hopes that he would be able to recite in the children’s week of that year (in front of the whole church) because children in the church I attend often do Bible recitations. When it became apparent that He would not be able (and would not even be steady) to recite in public, I decided to wait another year till when he would be a little more mature. This year, I resumed with the memory verses and it has been fantastic. The best part is, my second son who is two years old memorizes the verses too. I love how excited they are about each new verse and how they excitedly recap the verses of the previous week.
And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.Deuteronomy 11:19
When I was a child, my parents taught us in this way too. Believe me when I say, it never departs from your children. To this very day, I remember most of those verses. Sometimes, when it seemed we could not memorize certain verses, my mum made it into a song to enable us learn faster.God is awesome and I am thankful for the opportunity God has given me to raise future members of His army. Children have so much trust in their parents that they will learn whatever we teach them. Read Bible stories to them, make it fun and exciting, read to them over and over again and make it interactive. Stimulating their interest in God is for your own good (well…and theirs too).
I realized that when I recite the memory verses with my children over and over again, It also helps me learn the verses i never knew. So get on board. From time to time, I will post some of the verses my children have learnt and are learning as guide for those who are willing to introduce memory verse learning to their children. Stay tuned!!!
We will not hide them from their children, shewing to the generation to come the praises of the Lord, and his strength, and his wonderful works that he hath done. Psalm 78:4
Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another. (Galatians 5:26)
Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying (Romans 13:13)
A sound heart is the life of the flesh: but envy the rottenness of the bones (Proverbs 14:30)
Envy is the desire of something that belongs to someone else, this desire often causes resentment and discontentment. Harold Coffin said envy is when we count our neighbour’s blessings instead of our own. I find that to be pretty accurate. Envy is typically a negative emotion and all the biblical references of envy or envious emotions point towards negativity.
Becoming a mom got me thinking seriously about envy as a sin I have often overlooked. The thing is, I have often found myself in situations like what I described in the previous paragraph. Wanting what the children of other people have etc as opposed to realising that my life is different and my children have their own needs which may not necessarily be the same as other people’s needs. In this age of social media, it is even more common and easier to get stuck on the lives of others while forgetting that we have our own lives to focus on.
Envy is one of those sins that begets several other sins such as covetousness and strife(which God specifically warned against). Unaddressed envy can ruin lives, marriages and even our relationship with God- I know this for certain because I have been there, It is really hard to focus on God when you are too busy daydreaming about having the life you think someone else has and detesting them for having a ‘good life’. Many people have gone as far as finding ways to outshine the other person or wishing ill towards the person they envy (1 Corinthians 3:3, Colossians 3:5, Exodus 20:17, Mark 7:21-23)
Envy is a sin!!! (Galatians 5:21, 1 Peter 2:1, )
Thankfully, we have a remedy for sin.
Repent!!! (1 John 1:9, Romans 12:21)
Talk to God about this demonic spirit (James 3:14-16).
Envy would make you aspire to be like someone else so much that you struggle to measure up. So many people are ‘competing’ with people who really have no idea about them. I guess in a way, this can be idolatry because someone else has become the standard. Remember the first commandment? (Exodus 20:3, Ephesians 5:5).
Many times, the people we envy are unbelievers and the word of God has strictly warned against that. (Proverbs 23:17, 24:19).
If you want your marriage to work, envying another person’s marriage does not help.
If you want obedient and responsible children, envying another person’s seemingly well adjusted children is definitely not the answer.
I have heard several people say envy can be a good thing or a good motivataor, unfortunately the Bible does not say so. Time and time again, believers have been warned against any form of envy.
I know people talk about Proverbs 31 a lot however, the first part of verse 28 caught my attention a few days ago.
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
Proverbs 31:28 KJV
My children do not call me blessed. Well, they are 3 years old, 2 years old and 2 months old. When I lived with my parents, I never called my mum blessed despite the fact that she is a good mother. Maybe I was too stuck up or too stupid but as an adult I can proudly say my mother is a blessed woman.
The truth is, as mothers, a lot of the stuff we do may go unnoticed but you know something? A day will come when they will look back and understand everything you have done. They will call you blessed.
Do not give up!!! Even when you feel discouraged. Cast your burdens upon the Lord, Jesus is the affirmation you need.
Thank You Lord for my family, help me to serve them with love and joy. In my weakness, be my strength. Comfort me when I feel discouraged. Help me to appreciate good days and to remember such days when I feel overwhelmed In Jesus Name. Amen.